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Single and Lonely


Anon: I've been single for 3 years now and have never even been in love. I'm 26 and all my friends are getting married and settling down and it makes me angry  that I'm not doing the same. I hate coming home to an empty flat every night and I'm worried I'll never find Mr Right.

Princess: You sound like you've been hurt in the past and now you care more about what's on the inside than just looks and that's great. Not settling for second best is a good trait and when Mr Right comes along he will share that with you.
However, I think you're focusing too much on needing a man to be less lonely and this is wrong. I always found men are like buses and when you want one they never turn up, so you need to try and focus more on you and making yourself happy first.
If you're finding your friends are all settling then why not make some new friends who are single? Take up a hobby like dancing classes to get you out of the house and meet new people, or try taking an evening course to fill your free time. If you feel your flat is still too lonely, maybe consider getting a cat for company as they make greats pets, are easy to look after and are brilliant for cosying up with on those lonely nights.
I understand how this time of year can be hard for people on their own, so you should also read my article on How To Survive Xmas Single, which has great pointers for why it's great to be alone this Xmas.

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Anonymous: I don't trust my boyfriend.
Iv'e been with my boyfriend for 2 years and whilst things have been good I am now worried he may be cheating on me.
I asked to see his phone, as I had seen a text from a girl, and he refused. I checked it the next day and all his texts had been deleted. Is he hiding something?

Princess: This is a very tricky situation. Trust in a relationship is a very hard thing to keep and sometimes when we are insecure in ourselves we tend to read too much into things. Snooping in his phone is not the best way to go about things, as it destroys his trust in you at the same time, making it impossible to know if he is genuinely hiding something or simply angry at you for snooping.
You need to talk to your boyfriend (not shout or accuse), just calmy sit down and chat about what it is you are worried about. Apologise to him about checking his phone and explain why you did it. This is more likely to help him to open up to you and chat  about the reasons his texts were deleted.
In my personal experience ,I have had this happen to me and unfortunately, there is no way as yet, to tell if he is cheating on you. Accusing him everytime he does something shifty will only lead him to get his back up and you will both argue. You need to address your own trust issues first and communicate with your man. If the behaviour continues, you need to ask yourself if you can trust this person and enjoy your relationship together.


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