DO MEN PREFER BITCHES?

One of the most popular self help books is 'Why Men Love Bitches' by Sherry Argov, which is a book that gives women advice about what they should and shouldn't do to keep a man.
So do men actually prefer women to be a bitch?
It is not so far fetched, seeing as women tend to be attracted to jerks and bad boys. So what is it a bitch does that grabs a mans heart?
Here's an idea of bitch qualities that attract men, but be aware of bitch flaws that will have quite the opposite effect and send men running for the hills.


Bitch Qualities:

• Confidence. It's sexy and very intoxicating to be around a confident woman.
• Independence. Don't be that girl who has no life of her own and don't be that girl who is clingy and smothering.
• Feisty. Men love a woman who can take shit and give it right back. Banter and passion for what you believe in can go a long way.
• Beauty. It's not about 3 inch deep make up or walking around like you're the next Paris Hilton, but always looking good like you made no effort at all, is far sexier than walking around in a 3 day old jumper.

Bitch Flaws:

• Ice Queen. You're not going to get another date if you're colder than a fish and show no warmth or friendliness.
• Narcissism. Men don't need to know how pretty you think you are, watch you take yet another photo of yourself or hear about how awesome you think you are.
• Attitude. No man likes a pouty princess, who spends all her time complaining and being negative.

WHAT WOMAN SAY AND WHAT THEY REALLY MEAN

She Says: “I'm fine”.

She Means: Something is wrong, I'm not fine and I will be mad at you if you don't figure out what's wrong.

What To Do: Make a mental note that in a woman's vocabulary, 'fine' has the same meaning as 'awful' and do your best to gently coax out of her what's wrong.

She Says: “What are you doing tonight?”

She Means: What are you doing with me tonight? When a woman asks what your plans are, it's because she intends to make plans with you.

What To Do: Answer with “I'm spending it with you of course, what did you have in mind?”

She Says: “That shirt looks nice, you should wear it more often.”

She Means: This is the only nice piece of clothing you own, please go and buy more clothes that look like that.

What To Do: Wear it again and go shopping, asking her to come along.

She Says: “Sure I'll watch the sports game with you.”

She Means: I'm only putting myself through this hell so I can spend time with you.

What To Do: A none sporty woman watching the game with you is the equivalent of you enduring 3 hours in a shoe shop with her, so she must really care about you. Appreciate this gesture and make sure you reciprocate her gesture.

She Says: “Do you get on well with your mother/brother/father?”

She Means: Are you a family man? She needs to see you as a loyal and sensitive future husband.

What To Do: Tell a couple of stories about the fun you had with your mother/brother/father in order to reassure her.

She Says: “Who was that girl you were talking to?”

She Means: If SHE ever comes near you again I am literally going to rip her head off and use it as a toilet brush.

What To Do: Answer the question of who it was and mention what you were talking about, then kiss her and compliment her, changing the subject.

PRINCESSES RULE OVER WAGS

It seems the days of girls wishing they could be the next Coleen Rooney or Abbey Clancy are on the decline and more girls now dream of being a Princess.


Perhaps we are sick of reading about every footballers' new affair and infidelity scandal, but The Sun Newspaper recenlty published a poll for 13-19 year old girls with the results showing that whilst 35% admire Victoria Beckhams' relationship with the ever gorgeous David Beckham, 50% would rather have the realtionship of Kate Middleton and Prince William.


So with Princesses currently ruling the crown due to the recent engagement of Kate and Wills, the question begs will it last or will girls revert back to envying the WAGs?

Please girls, get your brain in gear and stick to preferring royalty over rubbish!


Princess Pros:

• Posh frocks and posher parties.
• Royalty and possibly a tiara.
• Power to rule and worldwide respect.
• Your very own decorative plate for people to put up in their cabinets.

Princess Cons:

• Must behave like Princess and set Royal example.
• Royal duties may get tedious.
• Lack of freedom.
• Public Scrutiny.

WAG Pros:

• Married to a famous footballer.
• Can make career and money off status without need for any actual brains or talent.
• Great clothes and fashion deals.
• Fame and fun parties.

WAG Cons:

• Married to a famous footballer, so when he cheats you will be pubicly humiliated.
• Spend a lot of time apart from your famous roving eyed footballer.
• Seen as skanky and stupid.
• Likely to develop eating disorder due to media calling you fat.

VERDICT: Princesses Rule!

FESTIVE FLIRTING

Tis the season to be flirty, so here's my top tips on flirting this Xmas......

• Eye contact - let your eyes meet and linger for just over a second. If he returns the gaze and smiles then he's interested.

• Chat Up Line - Too much worrying goes into what to say first and the so called chat up lines often backfire, so instead comment on something mutual, such as, the food, music or decorations and allow it to act as a springboard into a conversation.

• Body Language -don't fold your arms, look over their shoulders or appear tense as it all gives of a signal that you're not interested. Smile, listen and focus on them with your body turned towards them.

• Less To Impress - don't try to drink them under the table, boast about what car or job you have and how much money you earn, because they won't be impressed.

• Friendly - keep it light hearted and show that you are fun and friendly and whatever you do, don't bring up your aunt's death or your recent visit to the doctors.

Try these tips next time you're out for your festivities and grab yourself some flirty fun. But remember if they are already taken, step away and leave well alone.

HOW TO SURVIVE XMAS SINGLE

Xmas can often seem like a couple's holiday, with everyone talking about what they are buying their boyfriend/girlfriend and people walking around holding hands, but being single during the festive period has many many ups.


1) No In-Laws - You don't have to put up with someone else's relatives or try to make a good impression for them. So you can be your usual self with own family without worrying that your mother-in-law is glaring through the back of your head disapprovingly because you just downed a jelly shot and accidentally mentioned your new tattoo.


2) Shop til You drop - with no shopping to do as a couple, you have the freedom to go in whatever shop you want without having to drag around a miserable looking man whilst you try on yet another pair of shoes.


3) No Budget - with noone to put a cap on your spending over Xmas, you can spend as much as you want with no guilt at buying that £90 pair of boots you've had your eye on.


4) No Present Panic - the hardest part of being in a couple at Xmas is stressing out over what present to get them and you will be missing out on the frenzy of finding the perfect present that expresses your relationship, meaning you can spend more time buying presents for yourself!


5) Partying - you can go out as much as you want ,as often as you want,without having to explain yourself to anyone or having a time you need to be back for.

6) Festive Flirting - it's the best time of year to flirt and what better excuse to kiss that eye candy than to be able to carry round the mistletoe!

7) Remote Control - you can watch soppy movies without having to fight over the TV remote and be endured to yet another Stallone movie.

8) Xmas Day - you wont have to enter negotiations over whose family to visit or spend xmas with, leaving you more time to relax and enjoy xmas the simple way.

9) Stuffing - yes that's right girls, you can sit in you pj's and stuff yourself with all the choccies and not feel guilty about it.

10) More Girl Time - without having a man around to keep you occupied, it leaves you with more time to spend with the girls, whether it's shopping or partying!

WINTER DATE IDEAS

As the weekend draws closer and the cold freezing nights get more annoying, here's a few simple ideas as to where to go on a date so you don't give each other cabin fever and can still enjoy spending time together.

• German Markets - if you're bored of Xmas shopping on Saturday afternoons then try snapping up festive goodies with warm mulled wine and fresh giant pretzels, as it really offers the feel good factor this winter. Go to http://www.christmasmarkets.com/ to find the nearest to you.

• Outdoor Skating - a cliche and a classic and we've all seen it on the films when it comes to romantic dates and if you both fall over then at least you're out having fun too. www.enjoyengland.com/attractions/events and go to December Skating.

• Beer Festivals - this one is not just for the boys and it will certainly give you the winter warmer you both need and add a little variety to your normal date night . www.beerintheevening.com/beer/festivals

• Hotel Room - Before the Xmas run really kicks in, why not escape from it all with a quiet and cheap hotel for the night. It could be just what you both need to get away from it all and keep the romance ignited. http://www.laterooms.com/ offer good last mintue and cheap deals.

• Shopping - There's something romantic about wrapping up and walking around the shops together holding hands, with all the Xmas lights and festive windows and cheer. Leeds and York are great places to visit this winter.

• Grab a Coffee - shake off the cobwebs of being stuck indoors by going out  and grabbing a coffee together. It's the perfect way to chat and warm up. http://www.cosycoffeeshops.co.uk/

OFFICE PARTY DO'S & DONT'S

Yes it's that time of year again when work places gather in mass for their Xmas parties along with the horrid outcome of embarrassing antics and drink fuelled ramblings that leave you too ashamed to head back to work on Monday.
This year make sure your office party goes well by taking note of these office party do's and dont's....

• DO attend - It shows you are committed to your company and value team work.

• DON'T turn up too late - people will be bored of meeting and greeting after the initial entrances and won't be interested in you.

• DON'T wear your usual 'going out' gear - try a more conservative party dress from BHS or Marks & Spencers.

• DO remember it's still a business event - you still have to work with these people on Monday.

• DON'T buy tasteless or rude gifts for the Secret Santa - it's fine for your friends but not for work.

• DON'T commit career suicide -  avoid being loose tongued or making a fool of yourself in front of your boss.

• DON'T talk shop - people want to relax and enjoy their evening, so don't bore them to death

• DO watch you language - as my mum used to say ' it's not big and it's not clever'.

• DO circulate. -you may make new friends or get more favours done for you at work.

• DON'T try to get off with a colleague - this is NEVER a good idea.

• DON'T leave too soon - you may miss the most talked about event of the night.

Now you can go and enjoy your office party and hopefully be even more popular and relaxed come Monday.

HOW TO PULL YOUR XMAS CRACKER

If your looking for a man for Xmas, whether it's casual or Mr Right, try these tips.....

• What do you want? Think about whether it's a lover or a boyfriend you're looking for first.
• Speak to a friend about why you think you're single. What have your previous blocks been? Are you being too picky?
• Get out there! Finding a good man is not like shopping online, you don't just click and they turn up on your doorstep. 'Tis the season to have plenty of excuses to go out more and the Law of Probability suggests the more men you meet, the more chance you have of finding the one you want.
• Scan him out first. Check his availability over Xmas, and if he is unattached. If you want a man to keep you warm over the festive period, it's no good if he goes away skiing from 1st December to 1st January, so lightly drop into conversation what he does over Xmas.
• For the First Date suggest local and fun ideas that you're both into so he feels included. Why not try an outdoor icerink and a movie you both want to see.
• Book check yourself, meaning you must make sure you're both on the same page. If it's a relationship you want, make sure he's not just after one thing and vice versa.
• Mix it up to create more intimacy and staying power. Don't do things that only you or he likes, find common ground and share your mutual interests. Mix with each others friends' and family and create your own hobbies as a couple.
• As the Big Day approaches, don't push to be invited round for Xmas dinner. Go with the flow and have the chat earlier on about what he is doing on Xmas Day, this makes it more likely for him to offer you that invite you want.

Remember girls, if it's a relationship you want, then a man is not just for Xmas. However, if it's a lover you want ignore the nice 'not just for Xmas' sentiment and go have fun!